When Jasmine over at Zooming Japan asked me to write about dating Japanese women, my first thought was, “Ain’t no way Ken Seeroi’s touching that one.” In case you haven’t noticed, people are majorly opinionated about Their Japan. And that’s just But you know, if there’s one thing Ken Seeroi never backs down from, it’s a challenge. But I can’t deny that I’ve heard that foreign guys are popular . And not just Japanese folks either; I mean foreigners. Oh now somebody else starts rambling about traditional homes being all infused with zen beauty, and rock gardens, and koi fish. After publishing the article “The Truth About Dating In Japan As A Foreigner” a lot of female readers asked me what it’s like to date a Japanese guy.Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man. There’s a Japanese woman walking with a black man—-they like black guys! There’s some statistical thing going on, is what I’m trying to say. Half a dozen couples a day, out of cities with millions of people. I mean, can you really talk about dating Japanese women . There’s a short guy—-the Japanese really are short! That’s because the people who didn’t get lucky have already left. Although I still believe that for her to opine about dating as a foreign man seems roughly on par with me talking about being a German blogger. At first, we went through periods where we would only speak English (which I didn’t like) or when we would only speak Japanese (which he didn’t like). ” “I think in general, it’s important to be very open about what you are expecting from the relationship.Obviously we change it according to the circumstances (we are not going to speak in English to each other when out with a lot of Japanese friends! If you need a lot of hugs and affection, make sure that he knows and don’t just get annoyed that he’s not automatically doing it.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
And if it sounds a bit like I’m down on Japanese women, that’s not the case.
What I’m not so cool with is repeating the same unfounded information about Japan. Anyway, if you’ve made it through this lengthy preface, then go check out the full article in all its glory, and let me know what you think.
Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.
Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.